So for context my mom and dad got divorced when I was 15 cause my dad chated on my mom with Michell. My SIL re-married when her son was 2 and our twins were 4 months. For context, me and my brother have never met my grandad. Reply. Natalie's quality of life will not decrease significantly by moving into a smaller room, but Jonathan's will. She was a single parent. Honestly, I don’t think that’s my problem. Emily (30f) and Hayes (26m) with my ex-wife. I knew I would be living with his parents but after a while I expressed my unhappiness to my husband. I had 4 of them living with me full-time, and 3 of them I had split custody with. According to my dad, he and his father had a very toxic relationship. AITA for telling my wife I’m tired of raising a kid that is not mine. Second, how gross of your dad. my mom is a SAH mom and she usually doesnt talk during these things, dad doesn't give her the space to because if she does or if she talks to me she will have to deal with the consequences from him - continued verbal and possibly physical abuse, he's definitely emotionally manipulative towards her. What a small, entitled child you are. This is more than plenty for a great wedding. IT IS selfish and greedy for your mom and husband to expect you to give them money. I asked why my unborn half sibling needed money. It’s everything your dad could give you to help you in life because he won’t be there. You also don’t need a 1. I currently make around 200K and have to give my ex-wife 40k for alimony and 40k for child support. I refused as I thought it made no sense, I rarely heard of a child giving his inheritance to the remaining parent, even less when we had so little growing up and I still am having a hard time trying to make a decent living. Familial duty is one thing. Update Aita for refusing to have my dad in my life after he chose his new family : r/AITAH. While I sympathize with his situation, I don't think it's my responsibility to fund his education. Dad (66M) has hit bad times, when I (42M) was younger he and my mum were not together but he was a Dad and he was a great Dad, he bought what I needed, I visited him on weekends, we went on holidays etc. TL;DR My dad claims I'm ruining his life by not letting his wife be a grandma, or meeting the previous one. The self-centred audacity of this man is disgusting. First time posting so apologies if I do something wrong. My wife and I always expected our kids to attend college and then graduate school, as AITA for refusing a gift from my father. I 46 (M) and wife, 38 (F) has been nagging me non-stop about having another baby that I don't want. My (30F) parents got divorced 6 years ago After we found out that my father was cheating on her. This major life change has coincided with the exact same teenage years when daughters rebel big time. My father's wife had a 3 year old daughter who, a year into their marriage, was diagnosed with a form of cancer that is tricky to treat. When the kids were young, my parents set up education funds for both of them, which was very generous of them. I tried contacting her several times before the get-together. He quickly got engaged and remarried. AITA for refusing to go to my dad's funeral? Not the A-hole. My (23F) father (71M) has chronic kidney disease and needs a kidney transplant for survival. r/AITAH. You don't need to have a contract to have a debt. My grandma aka mom's mom died recently and I found out she Unfortunately for my father's fiancée, she chose an unsuitable wedding date: August 15th, my birthday, and the day of my grandfather's knee surgery, which he has been waiting for for the past three years, ( keep in mind he got the notice for the surgery BEFORE they chose a wedding date and even told my father and his fiancée about it). Last year, my grandparents (dad’s parents) let me know they had been saving a college fund for me, and over the years have saved a AITA - For refusing to keep lending my Dad money. Go to AmItheAsshole. I see that the problem has just gotten bigger now. update: AITA for what I said to my dad who cheated on my mom. My Father is 54 for anyone wondering. I have two children. So I (14f) have lived with my brother, "Max" (29m) for eight years. 6 years back my father gave me 1 machine (used for a year) and 4 machines (all are over 30 years old) and were not working properly and a unused factory premise that had been shut for 11 years. He just wanted everyone to be happy and get along clearly at my expense. About 4 months ago, my Mom got engaged to her Fiancée ( fake name) Joseph. He didn’t only leave me her also left my sister but she took it upon herself to help his family in need despite not knowing if he would use the money for his daughter or not. And I could put all I have that was his in a couple Rubbermaid tubs. Sam and my ex ended up marrying seven months later. She left me a few months after Hayes was born and ended up getting back together with her high school ex Sam. NTA - First, I’m so sorry for the loss of your sister. To be honest with you. You are willing to put the baby at risk to reduce the chance that Katie will get the wrong idea. Growing up, my dad was one of my favorite people. 2. Tell us about any non-violent conflict My grandma (dad's mom) left me (27F) my dad's (52M) portion of her inheritance but left him and my brother (30M) nothing. Feb 29, 2024 · This 17-Year-Old's Family Is Calling Him Selfish For Not Using His $500,000 Inheritance To Help Pay For His Step-Siblings' College Tuition. I offered to buy his house and rent it back to him. So my dad decided to ask me for money and didn't mention to me that my brother had agreed to pay already. His wife's daughter's cancer has returned and now they want money that my dad saved for me before he married her. GIVING THEM MONEY IS WHAT YOUR DAD WOULD NOT WANT. You made a promise to pay for her wedding under the expectation that you'd be allowed the same courtesies as anyone else - to bring your +1, and if 8ts not child free, to bring your child. He revealed that he and his ex-wife had divorced when their kids, now 15 and 12, were young, and after seven years of separation with 50/50 custody, his ex had remarried, ending any spousal support. That 10 years of knowing her and 9ish years of her being his wife means she has been my mom whether I like it or not and I need to start showing her that I love and care about her. To tell her that I knew she was pregnant and that we needed to talk, and I never got a response. The explanation is simply he wasn't dad material. For context he was kicked out when I was 2-3 ish and I never got to see him. AITA for refusing to help with the care of my disabled stepsister? Not the A-hole. The issue, though, is that we've never gotten along well. AITA for Refusing to Acknowledge My Father's Wife on My Sister's Wedding Ceremony. According to our religion, the husband has the obligation of providing and the wife has Posted by u/Next-Fan - 28 votes and 22 comments . My parents are not divorced but my father insists on working in his home country, so he only comes home once or twice a year for about a week. Thank you to everyone who gave me advice on the previous post. “I’m just so sad your sister spent her final days with so much hate in her heart, and didn’t let my wife say goodbye” is SO manipulative and SO icky. I (54M) have two children (23F and 21M) with my wife (52F). Your dad is never going to be dad of the year. My wife left this money to me for a reason, and it's up to me to decide how to use it. Day of Thanksgiving: My wife did show up. Long enough for her parents to come and My son’s actions directly resulted in a failed marriage with two kids. Then you want to punish him for saying he wasn’t planning to give it to you anyway because he already gave you 50% of the downpayment for a property in your name. My brother is pissed saying my wife is encouraging his wife to do this. OP's dad inherited a smaller portion of the estate because OP owed the grandmother money. That action might make me the asshole because it might make me look selfish, and that I'm extremely disrespectful to my dad. I have the same blood type but haven't tested for compatibility yet. Keep your money for someone who respects your basic human rights. I wouldn’t support this second marriage. My ex has full custody of the kids. An old throwaway because I don't want this negativity connected to my main. I was her only kid. You can have a relationship with him, being fully aware of his limitations. She had moved across the country to be with me after she finished university. After the divorce was settled we moved my mother out from our H hometown and went completely no contact with my father and his Yeah, my spouse is trying to get me to give up my late father's handgun right now and give it to him a gift. So the issue is that my dad inadvertently wrote out his second wife from the will because he worded it specifically in a way that would exclude anyone not mentioned specifically to make AITA for refusing to give money to my father. You’re mad that he is not punishing your other siblings more for not being loyal and helping as much as you have. I told them they wouldn’t see a cent of my hard-earned money, and have no right to make such a request. This has a long backstory. He chose to lie and say the money came from his family, choosing to place money in a position of importance over his trust and relationship with her. I have said I don't want to look out for my dad's stepkids when he and his wife die and they need to move into some type of full time care facility for the disabled. I really didn't think this would get very many responses. I am one of 5 siblings. Not to mention, her fiance's dad is himself giving her around $50,000 (Between 40k-60k). He’s unemployed and does nothing all day but insult us. It's been ten years and my head is still not okay. I truly appreciate everyone's feedback and advice. However, you also need to be prepared. I started making them when I was 11 and my mom was sick with cancer and now I make all my lunches. he met his current partner, let’s call her Janet, a year and a half later. AITA for refusing to take my half-sister in after her parents died. And my dad blew up on me. Be kind to yourself. Clearing out your savings to honor some nebulous request of your father that your mother has already rejected is something else. I didnt sent money or a care package to my struggling dad and his daughter in Africa 2) My sister telling me I was wrong and sending him money makes me question my judgment. My dad did remarry. AITA for being mad my ex’s significant other won’t give our child money? : r/AmItheAsshole. But the father should have forseen this as a consequence. It turns out my dad hasn't been paying his taxes. Expect nothing so there is no reason for disappointment. Ultimately, I don't care about his stepkids, and I don't have a relationship with them today, but I know they're innocent and vulnerable and I think my dad might be right that it's Essentially, they wanted me to go to an affordable option and give the college fund to my sister. Also, it’s interesting that he refuses to ask his older, better established daughter for help. AITA for refusing to help my daughter honor her stepfather at her wedding? Not the A-hole. He told me the adoption would mean the world to her and would be the biggest help while she grieves. My wife says I should have attended at least the ceremony to keep the peace. Unless he thought that his new wife's money was his money and therefore available for his children, all of them. r/AmItheAsshole. I decided not to attend his wedding. My sister isn’t even related to my dad or So here's the deal. My mom paid 2,000-3,000 dollars. I know her for around 4 years since I married her mother. Those are basic standards. Joseph is a fairly nice guy but we do have different takes on a lot of differing topics like politics (which I My father tried to stay in my life but I told him I hoped he knew he lost his daughter (me) and that I wish it had been him to die instead of my mom. She is in a wheelchair, cannot talk, cannot feed herself, has tubes and is regularly hospitalized for various different Luke admitted my dad had paid for some of the vendors for the wedding but he did not know this until after it was already paid. However, your Dad had you and E. So, for starters, my (18m) father has always been mentally and emotionally abusive towards me, my siblings, and my mother. I think 80k is far higher than any living wage, so she’s doing fine. Another thing is that my dad is in his home country, not where I live. Kayley was born with severe disabilities. I (18f) have just gotten in contact with my father (48m) after not knowing him at all. The action I took that should be judged is me straight-up refusing to give some of my money to my dad, so that he could spend it at the pub drinking. Originally, my dad (50m) was supposed to take me in, but he couldn't because he "had a new family and didn't want me staining his perfect life". Apr 5, 2024 · He said he needs money now. AITA for refusing to give money to my ex-wife? Not the A-hole. Around that time my dad bought a new house, with the basememt being a house on its own. ADMIN MOD. It sound bad so let me give some context. Who knows, my younger sister might join in and decide not to go as well. My mom passed away when I was 10. Well, my wife wants me to divide the money I'm going to give to my parents in half and share it with my ILs NTA - Your other brothers got money, you got property. I moved in with him after my mum died. My father's wife had a 3 year old daughter who a year into their marriage was diagnosed with a form of cancer that is tricky to treat. Monica has always had an issue with my unemployment. Me and my husband live our marriage in a conservative way. Dad has me (18m) and his wife has Ellie (17f who will be 18 in a week). Dad married his wife when I was 10 but they met and moved in together when I was 9. My dad's nearest relative (legally speaking) is his mother, who I have met once in my life at a wedding. Reply reply. It is now Jonathan's room. That summer I went to this school program which was gonna help me have a better academic history or smth like that. I wouldn’t consider these the actions of a good person. Greedy and entitled. I don't know how this got out of control so quickly. AITA for refusing to pay for my father's funeral. I think, I need to give a background information before explaining the details. My mom remarried when I was six and I have a stepsister, Maddie (17F). Mar 10, 2023 · The poster his sister's boyfriend stays at home smoking weed and playing video games while she works. My father married his wife when I was 12, four years after my mom died from cancer. Asshole. I decided to take the advice from many of you and talk to him about my feelings. For context: I (F24) married my husband (M28) about 2 years ago and moved from the UK to USA. My (48 M) step-daughter Hannah (18 F) is going to attend college. AITA for refusing to let my stepdaughter live with us. My Mom is 56 and her Fiancée is 59, Im 29 and my Brother is 19. Dealing with your parents' divorce at 13 is horrible. While I do not dislike children, I don't want children of my own, and I made this very ADMIN. I’m going to suggest family council in for you, E and your Dad - jointly and individually. My stepdad and mom haven’t saved much for Maddie and her college fund will barely cover two years of tuition, less if she goes to her dream I received 100k, I decided to divide it as follows: 30K for me, 30K for my wife, 25K for emergencies and 15k for my parents. Even if his intentions were good (its not), he probably doesn't realize the dad is using him as well. Onto the story: About a month ago, I found out that a friend of mine is moving to another country permanently after the school year It takes 6-7 years to get past the death of a spouse. JacquesBN. Nobody was cut out or overlooked. I am the main breadwinner at home and my wife and I split the bills 25/75 (I don't know if this is important). Your lesson above to OP is dead on. And that his kid deserves a leg up. AITA for refusing to split my college fund (s) with my stepsister? Not the A-hole. Yeah, well he meant a lot to me too. Yes you do. It would go from weeks to months to even a year or more late. Note. Uh, totally get where you're coming from! AITA for refusing to send the child support to the father of my son. Maybe give him $200 and tell him that’s all you have available. She took a long time to die. It makes it incredibly difficult to interact with my kids. He said I was being an ahole like his dad and trying to control him with money. Your dad is trying to give you now what he would have contributed during his life had he lived. AITA for refusing to share money with my stepsister? Not the A-hole. AITA for refusing to let my father's wives into my life? Not the A-hole. My parents were already divorced at this point, so I was the sole beneficiary of her estate, so I have a trust fund which my granddad manages for me until I turn 25 (I’m currently 18). Around the time OP shared his story online, his ex-wife faced My (17F) dad died when I was three and left me a substantial amount of money. I already had 7 children before I met my wife. Luke admitted my dad had asked him to speak to me on his behalf. My dad called me today asking if he could borrow money for rent. "I told them I would not be sharing it because it was Context: me and my husband are both muslims (I’m a revert and he was born as a muslim), we are both 20 years old and recently married. Remind your aunt that this is what your dad wanted and that you are following his clearly shared directions. Dream Viral · Original audio You do not have to pay, and you might be better to find a place to stay as your dad will guilt trip you into giving him money and use you while he has some authority over you. My dad decided that now I need to give her what she wants. To be clear, neither Monica nor I have jobs. He blocked my number, facebook, and email. My dad’s wife Monica is also here. Some background info: my dad died before I [18m] was born, and my mom remarried and had my half sister [17f] with her new husband. Dec 10, 2022 · "AITA for refusing to give my father and his wife money that my father saved for me before he met her?" My father married his wife when I was 12, four years after my mom died from cancer. Every time I try to talk to her at the get together. My MOTHER IN LAW volunteered for my husband to pick them up at 12:30 AM on a Sunday night, before he had to go to work the next morning. AITA for refusing my father access to my dying mother, denying him closure. It really helped me realize that while I was still angry with my dad, I do want a relationship with him. I have been in our daughters' (26F) life for 22 years. You have every right to refuse therapy with them. Bea was a single mom at the time to Kayley 5 and Jace 2. I’m torn. It isn't easy to find a place to take a large dog. Who the fuck forces their parent to sign a contract to give them a house, especially seeing as you haven’t spoken to his in 4 years. I had struggled lending my dad and his wife money in the past (from a couple hundred to a couple thousand) and he never paid me back when he said he would. After my dad and my mom (49F) met they started dating at university and they had my brother. It's less than a third of the $160,000, she wanted from us (and 1/4 of the estimated $200,000 her wedding was going to cost). AITA for refusing to give my Mom money for her wedding. Despite his parents being very nice to me, I still feel very uncomfortable and suffocated living AITA for refusing to give my father and his wife money that my father saved for me before he met her? #question #AITA #reddit #redditstories #reddit_tiktok #storytime #story #game #foryou #fyp Logan had become annoyed with me refusing to attend his family events and walking out of his mother's birthday party when I realised my dad and Jane was there as he was getting pressure from his family about me ruining their events. This is because my sister doesn’t have the grades to get scholarships and will need money to pay for college, whereas I can go for almost free. Fully furnished etc, covid hit and my wife and i was having money issues so my parents offered to let us move in downstairs. Ok so my dad left me a very sizeable estate enough money to be considered generational wealth. Not the A-hole.     Go to AITAH. Helping parents come from your free will, and never should be demanded. AITA for refusing to give my father and his wife money that my father saved for me before he met her? #storytime #reddit #redditstories #fyp #story #viral #AITA. A catharsis for the frustrated moral philosopher in all of us, and a place to finally find out if you were wrong in an argument that's been bothering you. i AITA for refusing to give my now deceased dads any of his estate. His father had told Luke that him and his mom had paid. I (31m) am married to my wife Amber (30f) we have a daughter Emma (7f) the problem is my wife’s best friend Jennifer (30f) has a daughter as well Harper (7f) well Harpers dad is a lazy sack of crap and refuses to do anything with his daughter. IcyTap6812. She has no rights to that room. My grandparents are going to pay my college tuition. So my father has always been manipulative and All I have to say is I wished the family meeting went differently. My (23F) dad cheated on his wife with my mom, but they stayed together. When I was 30 and my girlfriend, MG, was 24 she was hit by a car. I feel awful for refusing to help them out, but on the other hand, this was their fault. ADMIN. My parents divorced nearly 2 decades ago and my dad was single when he passed away. My parents ended up divorced about 2ish years ago. People cross-post… Well, my wife wants me to divide the money I'm going to give to my parents in half and share it with my ILs, because it's money that would help them too. EnvironmentalPea5652. Despite this his side of the family that we remained in contact called him OP has offered the following explanation for why they think they might be the asshole: (1) I pretended to be broke, instead of in decent financial standing, to avoid giving my dad money before his wedding. My mom died when I was a few months old and my stepmom didn’t want me in her house so I was raised by my grandparents, who passed away two years ago. My dad refuses to give me lunch money for school, said no way in hell to making them (mom made his and now he pays for lunch every day) and doesn't want to give me permission to eat outside school (which is an option with parents consent) because he'd need About 3 or 4 years ago my father obtained around 2 or 3 million dollars. 1 million dollar home. My ex and I had a horrible relationship. I (30M) went to my sister's (32F) wedding ceremony where my father (58M) came with his wife (45F). they’re both raging narcissists with no ability to save money. When I told my wife's family that I couldn't give them the money they were asking for, they accused me of being selfish and not caring about their situation Natalie moved out, and the room reverted from being her room to being a room in your house, which you "gifted" to your son. You would like him not to give them money. He got really mad at his mother, who said, "Well, taxis are expensive. There were moments growing up when he would go days without communicating with my siblings and me after he moved out, but the man could do no wrong in my eyes. He was not earning anything from these machines or the empty factory. AITAThrowaway2881. Then I felt I was being treated unfairly because my brother HAS money, he just doesn't manage it properly so I always take the hit and cover my parents expenses. When we formed the company he gave For what it's worth, we will give her $50,000. Perhaps her 2nd marriage. AITA for refusing to pay for my daughter's wedding? Not the A-hole. UPDATE. aitathrowaway2613. He says this time is different because he ADMIN. I (28f) have been married to my husband, (42m) for 2 years, together for 4. She underwent chemo and radiation but the treatment did not work. The only relevant fact is that you have a one year old, mobile child living in your house and you refuse to allow your house to be baby-proofed to prevent that child from being injured. (2) My dad really needs the money because he owes $15K in child support/alimony and is about to marry the woman who is pregnant with his child. He has 3 children from a previous marriage, Lucas (18m), Lily (16f) and Kayla (13f). As the eldest, I was often the one most caught in the middle. My dad got married to Bea when I was 15. So I just asked why my brother can't pay. My wife is with me but she thinks I was harsh. AITA for refusing to lend my in-laws money after my father in law lost his job? I (32f) have been with my wife (30f) for 7 years. AITA for not giving a kidney to my father. Feb 6, 2024 · In November 2023, an anonymous male poster shared his story on the "AITA" subreddit. AITA for refusing to give money to my father-in-law. I, (47f) have an 18 year old daughter, Carly (fake name). We both grew up below the poverty line but we both worked out asses off, put ourselves through school, got decent jobs and saved every cent we could spare to buy a house this October. My mom died when I was a baby. 90K subscribers in the redditonwiki community. After the confrontation, his sister called No_Hat5534's wife. However, I decided to instead spend the evening with his ex and my daughter. Update: AITA for refusing to give my wife of 10 years another baby. The closure you want will never come. This subreddit is for a podcast called Reddit On Wiki, that reads reddit stories. This was the first time I met his wife since they got married. But some part of him loves you in his own way. AITA for not giving my daughter her education fund money? Asshole. " ADMIN MOD. They are not wealthy and my dad's wife has prepared her daughter to try and work hard for scholarships and financial aid to get into college, because she wants to study to become a lawyer, I think. I (47M) met my wife (49F) when we were in our mid twenties. No kidding. You will likely need to rent a house (or a room in a house where they let you have him), and you'll have vet bills to cover, food, etc. He only lets me see them every once in a while and he ignores my messages unless I use one specific app to contact him. He has three older kids (half siblings) but none of them are compatible. I (M40) was going to put refusing to help my ex fiancee's family. I don't actually know if this is how you do an update, but this is how I'm going to do it. His blood type, coupled with comorbidities (fatty liver from alcohol I (16m) make my own lunch for school. when I asked her to leave with me she said she'll never leave her husband no matter what happens. For a little bit of insight. AITA for refusing to give my brother and SIL our grandma’s jewelry? Not the A-hole. Out of the affair, they had a daughter, Annie (7F). My mother (41f) wants nothing to do with him and forbade contact. My dad had told Luke it was a gift and his way of contributing. We all want him gone, but can’t right now. 3) This IS YOUR LEGACY. AITA. I offered to let him use it but he wants to 'own it, because my father meant so much to him. Your aunt is an asshole for wanting only you to share your inheritance but not wanting your brothers to share. AITA for refusing to give my college fund to my half-sister? Not the A-hole. I refused, saying that this is money that is up to me to decide how to use it and that if she wants to help her parents, she is free to use hers as she wants. My mother said a good child would leave the inheritance to her - at least the house I grew up in and the land it stays on. He has a stepdaughter (16) and a son (5) with his current wife. AITA for refusing to pay for my step-daughter's college? Not the A-hole. You and your brother were his responsibility and he abandoned both of you. I (24f) am currently staying with my dad at his summer house. My parents were separated for decades but continued to attack one another verbally through their friends and acquaintances, often putting me and my siblings in the middle of their ongoing feud. Before my daughter turned 18, me and my ex (37m) had shared custody over her (before yall call me creep, we didn't do anything sexual until he was 18), I got her on weekends and my ex had her for the rest of the week. There was a provision in the will stating that any depts owed by the grandchildren to the grandmother would be subtracted from the grandchild's parent's share. Turns out my wife must've told her about her decision and she decided to follow her lead. When I met my beautiful wife. When I talked to my father, he asked me to greet and talk to his wife. At the start of my first year in high school, my dad was sentenced to 15 years in prison, and he served a little over 12 My siblings, who have never been asked to give them money, are still professing that it’s my job as their kid to take care of them. YTA. His wife now wants to pay for AITA for refusing to give my dad money? Not the A-hole. According to my dad she thinks it shouldn’t be the case and that my dad should pressure me to get a job, which he has declined to do. If your plan is to bring him with you, you need to be working and saving money. this is a community like r/AmITheAsshole except unlike that subreddit here you can post interpersonal conflicts, anything that's AITA but is not allowed there even posting about Scar from the lion king and AITA for refusing to help my father’s girlfriend with his birthday gift? for some very brief backstory, my parents divorced when i (23F) was 16 due to him cheating and having a severe alcohol problem. be qd jz fz qk ce ro tm qu ux